Have you just turned 30? Well, happy birthday to you then!
Wait…What? Turning 30 is not an occasion of happiness for you?
If that’s the case then you are not alone. Most people who have just turned 30 or are in their 30s feel a sense of dread with each passing birthday.
The joyous occasion which earlier used to bring so much excitement has now turned into aharbinger of anxious thinking. Now, birthdays are marked by a flashback of your life where you assess what you have managed to achieve and where you are still lagging behind.
With your own self-inflicted comparisons with others and societal preaching, the 30s turn out to be ‘a not so chilled out period of your life’.
Here, we are going to discuss why it’s completely unnecessary to double on your worries and what are the 4 biggest mistakes most people make after turning 30.
Without further ado let’s jump onto the mistakes…
Contents
1) Rushing to reach all the milestones
Media and society have made out the 30s to be the finishing line in your life. Some big and ridiculous expectations surround this particular age.
Some of them look like the following:
- Being in a solid career that you are going to pursue for the rest of your life.
- Finding your life partner by the age of 30.
- Beginning to expand your family.
- Having your ownhouse and car.
- Having a complete clarity of your ideals, principles and who you are as a person.
In a nutshell, you have to figure out everything about your life by the age of 30. These are quite farfetched ideas and are completely unrealistic expectations. I hope you comprehend how idealistic and hollow these expectations are when you are reading them.
Let’s bring the stories of some famous personalities to your attentionwho have gotten success only after the age of 30.
Jeff Bezos had a successful career in the computer science field before he turned 30, but it was only after the age of 30 that he switched fields and launched the widely known e-commerce platform-Amazon.
Julia Child launched her celebrity chef career in her 50s after decades of working in secret intelligence and advertising.
George Clooney found the love of his life Amal Clooney and married her when he was 53 years old.
Plenty of examples of why you should stop worrying about your milestones now!
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2) Being afraid to choose a different career
There was a time when you learned how to walk then you progressed towards running. After running, you learned how to ride a bike and finally graduated to driving.
You see how life evolves and you evolved with it?!
It is the same with your career. Your initial aspirations might have been different when you first joined the working force. Your aspiration could well have been limited to just‘making this month’s rent’ back then, but things change when you get older.
In your 30s you gain clarity on several aspects of life. Don’t think that it’s too late to switch careers now. Rather it’s a good time to begin something new.
Take ‘The Rock,’ Dwayne Johnson for instance. He changed his career multiple times from playing football to wrestling and then from wrestling to acting in movies.
Given that humans live up to the age of 80. It means you have another 50 years to do what you are passionate about. Don’t stay in a job that makes you unhappy for the next 50 years assuming that it’s too late.
3) Being too critical about one’s body
This is another big mistake that people in their 30s make. We are much more than our bodies or appearances. It is absolutely natural for our bodies to change as we get older. There is no need to be too harsh on yourself.
Each line on your face and each scar or stretch mark on your body has a story to tell. It’s best to embrace these changes. They only showcase that you are human and you have lived your life.
Being too critical of appearances can drive you nuts. It can also hit your confidence badly. While exercising and striving to be healthy is good. Do not take it to the extremes in hopes of reversing the clock.
Stay away from crazy diets, botox, and surgeries in hopes of arresting your 20s look.
Appreciate yourself and accept the way you are. When you accept yourself completely you will not let your insecurities come in the way of your happiness.
4) Settling for less in a relationship to avoid being alone
If in a relationship
When we are talking about lifetime commitments settling doesn’t work. If you are not happy in your relationship and want something else, go ahead and end it.
Don’t get married and settle for less just because you have entered your 30s now. You will be doing both yourself and your partner wrong.
Remember, if you are not happy yourself you can’t make the other person happy as well. Both you and your partner deserve to be with someone who adores you.
If single
Once single people hit 30 they go in a panic mode.They start wondering if they will ever find someone to spend their life with.
Believe me, you will find someone. There are billions of amazing people out there who will make a great pair for you. There is someone for everyone.
If you just stop the negative self-talk and go on some dates, your gloomy projections about your future will automatically change.
Just start the dating game and start exploring. Soon you will be swarmed with some great choices!
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Final Thoughts
Every stage of life is fun and so are your 30s. Don’t think life has ended in your 20s just because of society’s ridiculous standards.
George Clooney, Dwanye Johnson, Julia Child, Colonel Sanders, and many others have proved society wrong with their life.
Truth is, life is just getting started in your 30s. Don’t be gloomy if your life doesn’t conform to society’s expectations.
You can very well make your own milestones and reach them when you want!
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