How to Deal with People who Gossip about you

Gossip is a term which can be synonymously used with different situations and people. Let’s say, you have a friend who has a secret crush on someone, better say; admire that person. You both talk about him/her every now and then, that’s what gossip is between you both. But it’s not harmful, because none of you or that person is getting mentally affected.

Whereas you come across a group of girls sitting across a table in a cafe, in your class or anywhere in the corner of the world. The topics between them would mainly be around people in their lives, whom they dislike or doesn’t find them suited enough to belong to their group. We come across such people in our daily life, our society typical aunty, our relatives as well as our known and unknown acquaintances.

How prevalent is gossip?

It’s crucial to understand that gossip is never gender biased, you can easily found it around. In the world full of digitalization, where your personal life is no more personal– thanks to on growing trends of social media handles. It is quite difficult to get rid of someone who keeps a close watch on you or precisely– people who gossip about you. With every selfie you click to every comment you receive, gossipers just know. They not only know you by keeping distance but they always find a reason to remember you. You act and they just feed it in their brain memory.

So if you are surrounded by people who like to gossip around. Someone who is very interested in someone’s life rather than on his own, then you can now deal with them. Here’s how.

Ignore those who gossip about you

Ignoring is the best remedy to stop any current discussion or letting people know that you are no longer interested in their talks. Ignoring is an art which can easily be mastered by anyone. All you have to do is to let go what others have to say about. If you know someone who is gossiping about you, simply ignore them and their worthless gossip. Your actions will tend to speak way louder than your words.

Know their problems

Ever got into a situation where you are simply losing your temper because someone is constantly nagging around you? Go and ask them about their problems linked to you and what’s on their mind. Because by making a rule for them, they not only know that you too are noticing them but you would able to realize why you’re being gossiped around. It’s always fruitful to know anyone’s problem because might be your actions are affecting them, which you may be not aware of.

Never lose your temper

Showing wrath out of disgust is something you should really not do. By reflecting anger you might lose an opportunity to know the story hidden behind. Anger will not only adverse the situation but your mental health would also be affected.

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Never counterpart with another gossip

If someone is talking about you behind your back, then never try to follow Newton’s Third Law. With every action made by you, they will also try to revert back with the same intensity. In the end, you only would be exhausted and hurt. Just maintain a distance from them.

Keep in mind that bygones are bygones

Never have the same attitude for the person who might have gossiped about you. Give them ample time to ponder on kinds of stuff they talked about. Initiate a word with them because their perception might transform after knowing the real you. With the knack of time, maybe you two can turn out to be very good friends. So just wait for some time.

Take gossip positively

There are people who are very docile and meek, it might get really very hard for them to escape from mare thought of being gossiped around. So, you really have to take good care of such innocent hearts. Because they tend to develop a negative understanding of everything going around them. Their self-esteem would be shaken, they might not trust anyone, they will stop confiding in you. Because gossip in a negative sense can become mental bullying. So help them reflect the brighter side. Maybe the gossips were all positive about that person and he took it in all wrong way.

Turn your social profile private

If you are not aware of people who gossip around. Just turn your profile private, thus keeping things within your friend circle and limiting your life to trustworthy people. Having less number of friends or followers doesn’t matter when you are surrounded by your loved ones.

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Don’t spill secrets to everybody

Spilling secrets is very simple these days. Let’s say, you and your best friend have a mutual friend and you both are discussing him/her. You are not only talking about him but there are chances that you both are sharing the conversations you personally have had with him. Even discussing someone’s conversation with someone known also can be termed gossip. Because you are spilling out the secret shared between you two.

Not every feed has to be posted

Don’t give anybody a chance to mock you. Its true, it is your social media wall, you are free to post anything but there might be persons who might not understand it and they decode it according to their perception and understanding. So, just avoid posting something which is irrelevant or might not be so important to you as well. However, you could upload those stories by which they might get jealous and wonder that you are someone to be gossiped about.

Feel honour that you hold importance to someone

Every person is not gossiped about in this amalgamated universe, but you are given such importance. Feel elated and happy about it. Someone is waiting to be noticed and then there is you– entre of the universe to someone.

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Conclusion: The above discussion makes clear that you should just stop bothering about who is blabbering things about you behind your back. Happily tackle gossipers and never try to get rid of them as these entrants would always be around.