Many people have a tendency to criticise others in front of everyone. It’s in their nature to humiliate others as if they have a right to do so. You can not change someone’s mindset or the way they behave and act around you. To make yourself feel better or to handle the situation well you should prepare yourself from the beginning.
You should be aware of the fact that everyone who’s your friend, classmate or colleague, will not be as good as they pretend to be. Many times, they show their real faces and you’re disappointed by their actions. You should not presume that they’re going to be good for you. Keeping expectations from everyone around you can be harmful to your own mind.
Keeping this in mind, this article deals with letting you know how to deal with those who put you down.
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Act according to the situation
Whenever you find yourself in a situation where you have been let down by someone you’ve had trust on, don’t act impatiently. Stay quiet for some time and let your brain think about the solution. If you just burst out shouting or responding in a way that makes you look bad, then don’t do it. It will worsen the situation. It will be a successful attempt for that person who humiliated you, it will show that you’ve been affected by those comments. You’ve to understand that you can not let that person take over you. You can not let them succeed in their attempt to make you feel bad about yourself.
If you show your anger, it will make that person happy because that’s what he/she wanted. You just have to stay calm and give yourself some time to respond, or you don’t have to respond at all, you can ignore them and move on
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Don’t be stressed out
You should not overthink about what happened and you should not occupy your mind with everything that has been said and done. You have to keep your mind undisturbed by all those negative thoughts. Breathe and don’t stress over it, it will take a while for you to digest whatever happened but it won’t last long because you’ve so much else to do, it is more important for you to focus on things that actually matter.
These type of situations are bound to happen, you just have to figure out a way to deal with them and then you will be at peace. Otherwise, all these useless comments given by others will make you feel bad about yourself. It is in human nature to feel bad when someone criticises you, it is in your hands to not let it overpower you and your individuality. Your mind needs a peaceful atmosphere, you have to learn about certain things that are in your hands. To be calm, to be peaceful and tranquil, to not have a stressful mind and to ignore whatever negativity you have around you.
Know the difference between them and yourself
If you strike back at them, there will not be anything different about you. You will look as petty as they are. If they’ve put you down in front of everyone, it not necessary that you should do the same as well. You can not fall down to their level, you have to maintain your dignity and peace.
If you want to solve the problem then think about a solution for it, rather than gossiping about it in the future, it will not help you to find a solution.
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Channelise your energy in doing something fruitful
You will have an urge to respond immediately or to retaliate and prove something for yourself. Try to rest your mind, and count till 10, you will find that your mind is getting calm, slowly and composedly. After you’ve calmed yourself down, start thinking about something else which makes you feel better, indulge yourself in some kind of activities or work.
All the energy that you were feeling before due to that anger, will be channelized into something productive. Your mind will not let you forget what happened but if you distract yourself from those thoughts, you will be able to be mentally settled. You should focus on keeping your mind stable. Start working on something that is essential for you to do.
Don’t make false assumptions
When you first meet someone new, don’t judge them right away. Give yourself some time to analyze and observe them. You should wait for them to show their real faces. When you prejudge someone, you either end up judging them wrongly or you just assume that they’re very great. Both of these assumptions can hurt you afterwards.
Try to avoid having high expectations from them and prepare yourself for whatever may come in the future. It is not mandatory that your assumptions will be wrong, they might be right too but being on the safe side is much better than finding yourself in a situation that’s not in your favour.
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Talk it out
When you have settled your mind and there’s no anger left in you, go to that person and talk. The reason for doing this will sound annoying or disturbing to you but you will make him realize that he’s done something wrong. Asking about what made them think about you this way, will let you know their reason of criticizing you, it may sound bad but you’ve got to listen.
You can even forgive those who have treated you this way because it makes you a better person, it lessens your burden, and it liberates your mind from those pessimistic thoughts, you can now focus on what’s significant in your life.
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Step out of it
Don’t indulge yourself in their views, do what’s best for you and forget about everything else. As soon as you move out of that room, step out of that situation too. You just have to believe that you’re not what they say, you know who you are and their criticism or judgement cannot let you down. Be aware of people’s behaviour and learn to tackle these types of situations, you will get to know more about them and your resistance power will increase gradually.