We all have at some point in our lives, come across a person who does not appreciate what we do or is jealous. To encounter a person like this could be as common as having a meal. However, the way we react to such a situation and how we let it affect us is totally our choice. We could respond in a way that they have been treating us and that, without a doubt will only take the matter downhill.
However, one more thing that you need to understand while dealing with the whole situation is that this thing is not your fault in any way. You are never to be blamed if a person is jealous of you. It is totally about how they feel what they feel but you can definitely decide how you take the situation and what you make of it.
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Indifference
Among the various steps that we need to follow while dealing with people who are jealous, the first should be indifference.
Ignore the hate messages that are being passed on to you. Even when the situation is very bad, not responding to the tantrums that the jealous person throws at you can show him that it doesn’t matter, whatever he does. This will eventually get him tired and he will stop on his own.
Focus on the brighter side
If a person is jealous of you, know that you’re of course better than him. Be confident about yourself. That way you are sending an indirect message to the hater that he has no power over your feelings and your way of dealing with things.
Be around people who make you feel better. There are a lot of people who give out a positive vibe just by being, make sure that you surround yourself with more such people. This will definitely help you build your confidence and positivity.
Be polite
Now, this is not always going to be easy. There will be times where you will be in a place where you are at your edge. However, if you lose your calm here– you have stepped in the trap.
You should be extra careful while dealing with a jealous person. No matter what they do in order to get you angry, you cannot let that happen.
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Understand and figure out why the person is jealous
Talk to the person and try to figure out the source of jealousy. More often than not jealousy is given rise from a sense of inferiority and might not be personal. An individual might be jealous of you because of something that you have and he does not. This is something that gives rise to a sense of inferiority, insecurity, and further causes jealousy.
Help the person improve
After you have understood why the person is jealous of you or what about you makes him feel inferior– talk it out. Interact with this person and give him a chance to improve himself. Tell him about your stories of struggle and allow him to relate. This way you’re lending him a hand and trying to help him out of his negativity.
Try and help this person in his field of inferiority.
Address the matter directly
If the things between you and the person are very tense and uncomfortable, you can also take a step forward and let him know about the same. This not only gives the person a chance to reflect on his actions but also puts you on a better side. He might even realize his mistake and step back.
Walk away
Not necessarily you have to take all the negativity that a hater gives you. You’re not bound to deal with any of it. As said earlier, if a person is jealous of you it has got nothing to do with you but them. The negative feelings are from their side and you are in no way responsible.
After you confront this person about how his feelings and actions are making you uncomfortable, you have every right to walk away if the person is not ready to step back.
Avoid the person
If all the above-discussed points still fail to make this person realize his mistake– avoid him. Make sure that you let the person know that you’re avoiding him and why you’re doing so.
Staying in an environment that constantly pulls you down and makes you feel bad about your success and achievements, thus you need to step out of it.
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Conclusion: From the above discussion we can conclude that while dealing with a situation where a person is jealous of you, you need to be careful about a few things. In no way can you let the situation affect your peace and mental health. At the same time, you should also try to understand that this whole matter does not hold you responsible and you should not blame yourself for the chain of events.
Next up, be as considerate as possible while you’re solving the situation. However, do not forget to take a stand for yourself whenever the time comes.